BDSM is love

“BDSM is love” was written for BDSMforyou.nl by Mistress Moriah.

For me, BDSM is an expression of pure love. My sub is my great love, and I love to torture and torment him. Even though I know he isn’t a masochist and that he doesn’t like pain at all. It is precisely because I know this that I can enjoy it even more. His suffering for me. Whether physical or mental, exploring boundaries and sometimes crossing them, raw emotions – for me, the purest form of romance.

Playing with Power

For me, BDSM is about playing with power, surrender, vulnerability, and trust. This can involve physical pain, but also humiliation – when I make my sub suffer mentally. Making him feel like he’s nothing, less than nothing. At best, he’s good enough to lie at my feet, among the dust and vermin. And while he lies there like that, he’s allowed to lick my boots clean right away. Yes, indeed, even the soles of my boots. What did you think?

Tormenting and/or humiliating him makes me happy. It brings me even closer to him, as if I can literally crawl under his skin. Seeing his suffering confirms his love for me, causing him to crawl under my skin at the same time. For me, BDSM is therefore an expression of pure love.

Isn’t BDSM abuse?

No. Not for me. When I’m angry, I would never hit my sub. Anger has nothing to do with love, and for me, therefore, nothing to do with BDSM. My lashes are my caresses, and his pain is the translation of his love for me. For me, BDSM is an expression of my love and passion, and when I’m angry, there’s simply no room for love and passion.

Balance

BDSM gives me the tools to be completely in balance with myself. When I have inflicted pain on my sub, all I want to do afterward is love him. More than just love, even. To comfort him, dry his tears, caress his sore body parts – as if in a superlative form of love. Only with such deep lows can there be high peaks. Without BDSM, everything would flatten out into a mediocre experience. And I can’t do much with mediocrity.

I’m curious about what BDSM means to you? What feelings does it stir in you?

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