An appointment with a Mistress: how do you prepare?

“An appointment with a Mistress: how do you prepare?” was written for BDSMforyou.nl by Mistress Moriah.

Exciting – you have an appointment with a Mistress. Whether it’s paid or unpaid, that shouldn’t (ideally) make any difference to your preparation. Any serious sub, slave, or sissy naturally wants to make a good impression. Proper preparation isn’t just nice for the Mistress, but for yourself as well. The experience actually begins when you make the appointment – right there at home on the couch. The anticipation leading up to a session is already an important part of the entire experience. That’s why I personally never make last-minute appointments. A phone call asking, “Can I still come by for an hour…” is never accepted by me. The answer is (and remains) no. Of course, this will be different for every Mistress, but my session, my rules.

Why is good preparation important?

Aside from the practical matters I’m about to discuss, preparing yourself is also enjoyable. It’s exciting to start thinking about the session in advance, and this only makes the moment of the session feel even longer. This builds up the anticipation. Additionally, it can alleviate some uncertainty (unhealthy tension). After all, being well-prepared means you won’t be faced with any unwelcome surprises.

How do you prepare?

Of course, when making the appointment, ask the Mistress if there’s anything else you need to keep in mind. If no specific requests are made, you can use this checklist.

Preparation for the sub/slave

1.

Make sure you’re thoroughly cleaned out. Especially if anal play is an option, ensure the chance of smelly “surprises” is as small as possible.

2.

Your pubic hair is shaved or at least trimmed short. Aside from the fact that no one wants to search for your little dick in a jungle of hair, it’s also just not practical. Hair can get stuck everywhere you really don’t want it. So trim that area short, or just shave it all off.

3.

Is (for example) wax play an option? Then you’d better shave the hair off your chest and back too. That makes it a lot easier when the wax is removed. It’s no fun picking melted wax out from between chest hair.

4.

Do you have any special clothing requests? Make sure you bring them with you.

5.

Make sure you’re freshly washed before the session and have sprayed on a nice scent.

6.

Bring a nice little gift for the Mistress. You’re not just borrowing a cup of sugar from the neighbor – you’re visiting a Mistress. A small gift is a sign of respect and appreciation. So don’t show up empty-handed. Not even if it’s a paid session. Because even a professional Domme deserves respect and appreciation.

7.

Be on time. And “too early” is not on time. On time means exactly on time. If you have an appointment at 1:00 PM, you ring the doorbell at exactly 1:00 PM, not 10 minutes to one or 10 minutes past one. It takes very little effort to ensure you’re exactly on time. Being on time means researching the route in advance, including public transportation and parking options. Always account for traffic.

8.

Is it a paid session? Then have the exact amount neatly tucked in an envelope with you and hand it over immediately upon arrival, so the Mistress doesn’t have to ask for it.

Preparation for the sissy

1.

Make sure you’re properly cleaned out – not just a quick wipe (literally), but thoroughly, as it should be.

Knowing that you’ve done this properly also contributes to your own relaxation. The more confident you are, the more enjoyable anal play can be. And aside from that, a Mistress isn’t interested in your farts. Ever. Accidents can always happen, of course, but try to prevent this as much as possible by rinsing as thoroughly and carefully as you can.

2.

Sissies are not supposed to have pubic hair. So all hair in that area must be shaved away, leaving smooth skin.

3.

This also applies to any chest hair (and back hair). This, too, must be shaved away. Sissies simply do not have chest or back hair.

4.

You wear your CB when you go to the Mistress and hand her your key upon arrival. She decides what will happen to that little clit of yours.

5.

Choose an outfit in advance and stick to it. You are not supposed to drag the entire contents of your wardrobe to the Mistress and only make a choice during the session. No one wants to deal with a mountain of clothes, and certainly not a Mistress. Out of respect for her, make sure you’ve made a choice in advance and bring only the clothes you’ve specifically selected for this occasion to the appointment.

An outfit can consist of: lingerie, a sexy dress, high heels, a wig, jewelry, stockings/tights, and a bustier.

6.

Of course, you’ll be nice and fresh when you go to the appointment and you’ll spray on a nice fragrance.

7.

Don’t forget a gift for the Mistress! That’s always a nice way to start, as a sign of respect and appreciation. Even if it’s a paid session.

8.

Of course, you’ll ring the doorbell exactly on time (and no, too early isn’t on time either). Being on time means you’ve researched the route in advance, including public transportation and parking options. Always account for traffic.

9.

Is it a paid session? Then you’ll have the exact amount neatly prepared in an envelope and hand it over immediately upon arrival, so the Mistress doesn’t have to ask for it.

Good preparation is half the battle

And once you’re well prepared, the fun can begin!

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Text: Mistress Moriah
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