Privacy Statement

At BDSMforyou we take your privacy seriously. You can visit this website without us knowing who you are: we do not use tracking cookies, do not show personalised advertising and never sell data. Logging in is only needed for our online trainings and apps, and is entirely your choice. This statement explains which data we do process in a few cases, why, and what your rights are.

Who are we?

BDSMforyou.nl is created and managed by Mistress Moriah. Insert Internetuitgeverij, trading as BDSMforyou, is responsible for the processing of personal data as described in this privacy statement. Insert Internetuitgeverij is a sole proprietorship registered with the Netherlands Chamber of Commerce (KvK) under number 27190568. VAT number NL001713667B70. You can reach us at mrsmoriah@bdsmforyou.nl or by telephone at +31 6 13268573 (WhatsApp only).

Cookies

This website does not place cookies on visitors' devices, except one necessary cookie when you log in (see below). That is why you will not see a cookie banner.

• After the question whether you are 18 or older, your own browser remembers your answer (in your device's local storage). This stays on your device and is not sent to us.

• In the BDSM Lexicon your browser also remembers your language and font size, reading positions you make without internet (until they have been sent), the files of the app itself, and the e-books you save offline yourself. Those e-books are encrypted with a key that only works in your browser, expire after no more than 30 days or earlier if your subscription ends, and are deleted when you log out.

• Only the site administrator receives a necessary session cookie after logging in. This does not apply to visitors.

• If you log in with a BDSMforyou account, we place one necessary cookie so that you stay logged in on BDSMforyou.nl and in our trainings and apps. The cookie only contains a random key, no personal data, and is not used to track you. It is removed when you log out.

Visitor statistics

We count how many visitors the site has and which pages are read, so we can see what is useful and share our reach with advertisers. We do this without cookies and without tracking you: we do not store IP addresses and do not build profiles. Advertisers only see totals, never data about individual visitors.

Technical server data

Like every web server, our server keeps a technical log including your IP address, the time and the requested page. We need this to keep the site secure and to investigate faults or abuse (our legitimate interest). These log files are kept for no more than 14 days.

Contact by email or WhatsApp

If you contact us, for example with a question or about coaching or a workshop, we only use your name, contact details and message to reply to you and arrange any appointment. We handle this discreetly. We do not keep messages longer than necessary; for appointments and invoices the statutory retention periods apply (7 years for the Dutch tax authorities).

Newsletter

If you subscribe to the newsletter, we store your email address (and your name, if provided) to send it to you. Your subscription only becomes active after you confirm it via a link in an email. You can unsubscribe at any time via the link at the bottom of every newsletter; we then delete your data. The legal basis is your consent.

BDSMforyou account, online trainings and apps

For our online trainings and apps, such as the trainings What is BDSM?, Sissy training, The Art of Conditioning in BDSM, the one-year programme Pro Domme Academy and the knowledge app BDSM Lexicon, you need a BDSMforyou account. We then process the following data:

• For your account: your email address, your language, what you bought or received from us (and until when), the date on which you declared that you are 18 or older, agreed to the terms and gave consent for special categories of data (see below), and the devices on which you are logged in (only a name such as “iPhone · Safari” and when you last used the device; no IP addresses).

• In a training: which lessons you have read, your answers to the knowledge checks (only whether they were correct), your exam attempts with date and score, and your certificate (the name you choose yourself, the number, the date and your score).

• In the BDSM Lexicon: which terms, articles, e-books and music you save as favourites, where you left off in an e-book, and, with an annual subscription, your personal renewal code and whether you have used it. The e-books contain a personal watermark with your email address, visible only to you, to discourage distribution.

• In the Pro Domme Academy: the name you want to be addressed by and your date of birth, which lesson you are at, your route (commercial, within a relationship or private) and your answers to the questionnaire (at the start, halfway and at the end), your answers to the knowledge questions and the exam, which practical days you have attended, your insight card of the day, your credits and what you buy with them, where you left off in an e-book, and the messages of a coaching session with Mistress Moriah (these are deleted 7 days after the session). Your notebook is encrypted with a password that only you know: we cannot read it. Your workbook contains your answers to the assignments, the feedback from Digital Mistress Moriah and the additions by Mistress Moriah (see below). In the Lounge: your messages and, if you add one yourself, your photo (see “The Lounge”).

• If you ask Mrs Moriah for help: your question, our answer and the date.

• Not: your answers to the reflection questions. They stay only on your own device; we cannot see them.

We only use this data to make your account, the trainings and the apps work: logging in, saving your progress, marking the exam, creating your certificate, answering your questions and saving your favourites and reading positions. The legal basis is the performance of the contract with you.

The fact that you use a training or app about BDSM, which topics you save or read in the Lexicon, and what you write in a help question, may reveal something about your sex life or preferences. These are special categories of personal data. For this we ask for your explicit consent when you first log in. You can withdraw it at any time by deleting your account. We handle this data with extra care: only Mistress Moriah (and helpers she explicitly appoints for this) can see it, and it never appears in reports or log files.

Workbook and Digital Mistress Moriah (Pro Domme Academy)

In the Pro Domme Academy you complete assignments. Your answers go into your own workbook. If you give separate and explicit consent for this (a box that is not ticked in advance), you receive feedback from Digital Mistress Moriah on each answer. That is not a person but an AI: a computer program set up to coach in the style of Mistress Moriah.

• What goes to the AI: your answer to the assignment (and when you rewrite it, also your first version and the first feedback), the assignment and the lesson of that day, the name you want to be addressed by, your route and a few answers from your questionnaire (your goal, where you want to be in a year, how much experience you have, how you describe yourself, what makes you insecure and what you look forward to). For one look-back assignment, your earlier answer that you look back on is included too. Not: your email address, your notebook, your other assignments or payment details.

• Who provides the AI: Anthropic (the company behind Claude), in the United States. Anthropic does not use your data to train its AI and keeps it for at most 30 days, only to detect misuse. The transfer to the United States is based on the EU-US Data Privacy Framework and the standard contractual clauses of the European Commission.

• Mistress Moriah reads along: Mistress Moriah can read your answers and the feedback, add something herself, and hide the AI feedback if it is not right. Helpers cannot see your workbook.

• Care: if the AI sees signs of serious distress in an answer (for example thoughts of suicide, violence or abuse), it refers you to help (such as 113 or 112 in the Netherlands, or your local emergency number) and Mistress Moriah receives a short email without content, so that she can read that one answer. The AI makes no other decisions about you: there are no grades, points or assessments.

• Without consent you only keep your answers in your workbook, without AI feedback. You can withdraw your consent at any time under Account in the app; from that moment nothing goes to the AI any more. What you write in the app, you write without real names or identifiable details of others.

• Retention: your workbook is kept for as long as your account exists. You can delete it yourself with “Delete everything” under Account in the app. If your access to the Academy has not been active for a year, your data in the Academy is deleted; you will receive an email about this in good time. If you have completed the whole Academy, you keep your reference library after your access ends, including your workbook and notebook; we then keep that data until you delete your account. You can always print your workbook or save it as a PDF yourself.

The legal basis for the workbook and the AI feedback is your explicit consent.

We only send you emails related to your account: your login code, a welcome email after a purchase, a message when your help question has been answered and, with an annual subscription to the Lexicon, your renewal code. In the Pro Domme Academy you also receive a short email when Mistress Moriah has added something to your workbook. The subject lines are deliberately neutral. We only send promotional emails if you have subscribed to the newsletter.

Retention: we keep your account and the data in the trainings and apps for as long as your account exists. You can delete your account yourself at any time under “My BDSMforyou”; we then delete everything immediately, in all trainings and apps. After deletion, your data may remain in our secured backups for up to 30 days. The webshop keeps orders and invoices for the statutory period of 7 years.

Buying: you order and pay in our webshop bdsmforyou.shop (payment via Mollie). The webshop only passes on the email address and order number to us, so that you get access automatically. The webshop’s privacy statement applies to the webshop.

Zoom sessions and recordings (Pro Domme Academy)

The personal Zoom sessions take place via Zoom. If we record a session, this concerns image, sound, the name you use in Zoom and the chat.

• Who can see it: a recording of a personal session is only for you and Mistress Moriah.

• Where: the recording is stored either on our own server in the app, or at Zoom (in that case the app only contains a link, with a password on the recording). Zoom also processes data in the United States, on the basis of the EU-US Data Privacy Framework.

• Retention: we delete recordings of sessions 13 months after the session. Video trainings (without participants on screen) remain available.

• Your choices: you can switch off your camera and use a different name, and you can ask us to remove a part of the recording in which you can be seen or heard.

The Lounge (Pro Domme Academy)

In the Lounge you talk with other participants and Mistress Moriah. Others see your name in the app (which may be made up) and, if you add one yourself, your photo. Nobody sees your email address. We remove location data and other hidden information from your photo.

• Who can see it: only participants with current access and Mistress Moriah. Guests in the trial period cannot.

• Retention: each message is deleted automatically 14 months after it was posted. You can always remove your own messages and your photo yourself. Your photo is no longer visible once your access ends.

• Reports: if you report a message, Mistress Moriah sees that message, the reason you give and your name in the app. The person you report does not see that it was you.

Invoices and payments (Pro Domme Academy)

If you book a separate practical workshop or Zoom session of the Pro Domme Academy, we create an invoice in your name. For this we keep: your name, your email address, your address (if you provide it), the invoice number, the amounts, the due date and when you paid. We send you by email the invoice and a reminder a few days before the due date.

You pay via our payment provider Mollie (Mollie B.V., Amsterdam). You enter your bank or card details at Mollie; we do not see them, only whether and when you paid. Mollie processes your payment data according to its own privacy statement. If you pay by bank transfer, we see the name and account number of the transfer on our bank statement.

The legal basis is the performance of the contract. We keep invoices and payment data for 7 years, because the law (the tax retention obligation) requires this; also if you delete your account earlier.

Personal ads

If you place a personal ad, we process your title, text, category, region and photos, the date of placement and approval, and any reports. When you upload your photos, we remove the hidden data from them (such as location and device). Online, only a blurred version is shown; the sharp version can only be seen by logged-in visitors who click on it.

A personal ad says something about your sexual preferences: that is special category personal data. You place the personal ad yourself and thereby consciously make it public to visitors of BDSMforyou. We do not let individual personal ads be found via Google and other search engines.

If someone responds to your personal ad, we forward that response to your email address, together with the sender’s email address so that you can reply. The sender only sees your email address when you write back.

Retention: we delete a personal ad and its photos 3 months after approval, or earlier if you delete it yourself or if it is rejected. We do not store responses: we only forward them. We keep reports until 3 months after the personal ad has been deleted. After deletion, data may remain in our secure backups for up to 30 days. The webshop keeps the order itself (only “Personal ad”, without the content) for the statutory period of 7 years.

Videos and links to other sites

• YouTube videos are only loaded when you click the play button. Only then do you connect to YouTube (Google), and their terms and cookies apply. A video's preview image is served from our own server, so YouTube only sees your visit once you click play.

• Buttons to our social media, the webshop (bdsmforyou.shop) and Petje af are ordinary links. No data is shared unless you click them. Those sites have their own privacy statements.

Who do we share data with?

We never sell or rent data. We only work with parties that are needed to run the site and our services, and with whom agreements on protecting your data are in place:

• Strato: hosting of the website, the trainings and apps, and sending email (servers within the European Union).

• Our email provider: for receiving and sending email and the newsletter.

• Mollie: payments in the webshop and for the invoices of the Pro Domme Academy (we do not receive payment details, only whether you paid).

• Dropbox: storing our encrypted backups. Dropbox may process data in the United States; this transfer is based on the EU-US Data Privacy Framework and the standard contractual clauses of the European Commission.

• Zoom Video Communications: for the personal Zoom sessions of the Pro Domme Academy. Your name (as you enter it in Zoom) and your image and sound go via Zoom; Zoom also processes data in the United States, on the basis of the EU-US Data Privacy Framework. If we keep a recording at Zoom, that recording is also stored there (see “Zoom sessions and recordings”).

• Anthropic: the AI behind Digital Mistress Moriah in the Pro Domme Academy, only if you consent to this (see “Workbook and Digital Mistress Moriah”). Anthropic processes the data in the United States, on the basis of the EU-US Data Privacy Framework and the standard contractual clauses of the European Commission.

We only provide data to authorities when the law requires us to.

Security

The site only works over a secure connection (https). The management area is protected and only accessible to the owner and the helpers she gives access, each only to the part they need. Login codes are valid for 15 minutes and we only store them encrypted. Encrypted backups of the site are made daily and kept for no more than 30 days.

Adults only

BDSMforyou is intended for people aged 18 and over. We do not knowingly process data of minors.

Your rights

You have the right to access your data, have it corrected or deleted, object to its use, and withdraw your consent (for example for the newsletter). Send an email to mrsmoriah@bdsmforyou.nl; we will respond within one month. If you are not satisfied with how we handle your data, you can file a complaint with the Dutch Data Protection Authority (autoriteitpersoonsgegevens.nl). You can also view your data and delete your account yourself, under “My BDSMforyou”.

Changes

We update this statement when the way we work changes. This version is dated 29 October 2026, with the Pro Domme Academy (workbook, Digital Mistress Moriah, invoices and payments, Zoom sessions and recordings, the Lounge).