Corporal punishment, or a spanking

“Spanking, chastisement, or a spanking” was written for BDSMforyou.nl by Mistress Moriah.

“Spanking” doesn’t really translate well, but if you had to come up with something, “a spanking” comes closest. During a spanking, you go over the knee and get a spanking. It’s somewhat reminiscent of days gone by, when this was a way some children were punished by their strict mothers. Within BDSM, spanking is also known as “impact play.” However, the buttocks can certainly take a beating.

A disciplinary spanking

A proper spanking involves a disciplined smacking on the buttocks to “teach you a lesson.” Lying across someone’s lap actually has a somewhat demeaning aspect to it. It’s not so much about the physical pain, but rather about making a point – you could call it a disciplinary spanking. It’s not about the injury, but you will end up with a red bottom. A spanking often goes hand in hand with a certain role-play. Think, for example, of teacher/student or parent/child.

Of course, the spanking doesn’t necessarily have to be over the knee; you can also have the other person bend over, lean over a chair, or lie down on the bed. Butt a little up in the air, and bring on those smacks.

The Experience

Several elements come together during a spanking, especially when it’s given over the lap. First, there’s the intimacy – after all, lying across someone’s lap is very intimate. Especially if they’re bare-legged and the other person is lying on top of them with their bare bottom. A spanking with the bare hand makes it even more intimate. The pain is intense but is usually manageable. It also leaves no welts, which is a comforting (and safe) thought for some. For some, this experience is so arousing that it can lead to an orgasm.

After a spanking, the skin will glow red and blood flow will increase, making the buttocks extra sensitive to any further stimulation.

What do you use for a spanking?

For a real spanking, it’s best to use your bare hand, giving a firm slap on the buttocks or the upper thighs. However, if you find this too sensitive for your hands, you could opt to wear leather gloves. If that’s still uncomfortable, you can choose flat objects, such as a paddle or a wooden spatula. Paddles are available in various materials such as wood, leather, rubber, silicone, or even metal.

You can vary the strokes: hard, firm taps, slapping with a flat hand, slapping with a cupped hand, quick, light taps, a gentle caress, sometimes with a brief pause in between, sometimes with a bit more speed. A few taps spread across the buttocks and then a few more in the same spot. Each has a different impact. The spot on the buttocks can also vary in intensity. The underside of the buttocks and the upper thighs are the most sensitive.

Tips for a good spanking

• Start the spanking gently with, for example, a tickling feather (not if it’s a disciplinary measure, of course)
• Preferably spank with your bare hand
• Build up the spanking gradually
• Give the skin time to warm up (unwarmed skin is more prone to bruising)
• Limit the spanking to the buttocks and possibly the upper thighs (never strike above the buttocks, as this can damage your kidneys and tailbone)
• Cup your hand, keep your fingers together, and strike with an upward motion
• Never strike too hard or too often
• Always keep a close eye on your sub
• Vary the intensity, speed, pressure, and position
• Try to strike at regular intervals
• Stop immediately upon hearing the agreed-upon safe word
• You can cool the skin afterward with aloe vera

Terms Used

What is flagellation

Flagellation is the process of striking oneself or another person with a whip or whip-like object as a form of religious discipline, punishment, or, in some cases, as a means of achieving spiritual or physical purification. It has been practiced in various cultures and religions throughout history, often as a form of penance or self-flagellation. In some religious traditions, flagellation is associated with rituals during periods of mourning or as a means to achieve spiritual ecstasy or enlightenment. It is important to note, however, that while flagellation has historical and cultural significance, it is not a widespread or mainstream practice in most modern societies.

Variations

If the buttocks are raised, you can vary the spanking by holding the arms behind the back, pulling the hair, or applying bondage. It’s up to you how you further enhance the spanking.

More information

Theme page Whips, paddles, and canes

Source

Text: Mistress Moriah
Photography: 123rf.com