Is BDSM tied to a certain age?

“Is BDSM tied to a certain age?” was written for BDSMforyou.nl by Mistress Moriah.

Of course I could keep this blog very short and snappy and just type: "No, BDSM is not tied to a certain age", but well, that would be a bit simplistic. It would be clear, though, because BDSM is of course not age-bound at all. Maybe from a certain age you start to suffer from the odd ailment, you get a bit stiffer and you can no longer crawl through the dungeon like a Zoef de Haas, but so many other things are still possible! So the way you experience it may change over the years, but that doesn't mean the intensity of BDSM has to diminish at all.

I'm regularly approached by older subs (60-plus) and I honestly love that. The youngsters will come along, they'll find their own way, but the older subs have often searched very consciously for a Mistress who suits them. And then they end up with me.

The giggles

I regularly get the giggles with my slave when we once again struggle up from the sofa, when we take the stairs a bit more slowly or go looking for reading glasses because they keep making the print smaller. It is what it is. And I'm not making my life any nicer by making a fuss about it. So I laugh at all those little discomforts and I let the subs fetch things for me more often or mop the floor for me, so I don't have to do it myself. And believe me, they do it with great pleasure because they love making me happy.

Filter upon filter

I'm 57 now. Around me I see a number of women of the same age (or older) trying very hard to look as young as possible. Filter upon filter upon filter. Why? I actually find it beautiful when you stand firm in who you are! Who cares? You're not only fooling the other person, but above all yourself. Because what is wrong with a wrinkle here and there, or a bit of extra meat on the bones? As an older, more experienced Mistress, you often have completely different things to offer. Things that are perhaps even more valuable than those tight looks. At our age, you surely don't want to enter into "competition" with those beautiful young women? They undoubtedly have very different things to offer, but that is something completely different from what we have to offer.

The ugliest photos

Of course I don't post the ugliest photos either, because I am a little bit vain, even though I accept my ageing. I too pay attention to my appearance, do my make-up as carefully as possible and choose my outfit deliberately. Not always, though, because when I'm home alone with my partner/sub, I'm just as happy to spend the whole day in a cosy outfit, without make-up. I sometimes love that too, and my partner/sub looks with his heart, so he always finds me beautiful.

But when I have a photoshoot, a party or an appointment, I certainly do my best to look as good as possible. But... you have to work with what you've got. If a sub wants a sleek young Mistress, he'll never end up with me. Even if I throw ten filters over my photos. And when I ask subs why they ended up with me, they tell me about my outlook, what I write about Femdom, how I look at it, how I talk about it, how intensely I experience it, the dominant aura, the commanding eyes, et cetera. Every one of those seems like an excellent reason to me.

Classic experienced Femdom Mistress

I'm simply a classic, experienced Femdom Mistress. Born dominant and enjoying her sadism. And that really doesn't need a filter over it. And believe me, if everything gets even stiffer, creakier or more miserable over the coming years, that is still no reason for me to stop with BDSM. I'll just adapt the BDSM experience to the possibilities that are still there, and I'll make the subs even more serviceable, so that I have to do a bit less myself. My slave said to me recently: "I think you'll die with your boots on..." I think she's right, and it seems to me a very satisfying end, at any rate.

So enjoy your lifestyle, even when you're 60, 70, 80 or 90. You are never too old to enjoy yourself and to completely be yourself. BDSM is under your skin, adapt your play to it and above all keep enjoying it for a very long time!

Then I'll do that too!

Source

Text: Mrs Moriah
Photography: Art of Pictures