What a Mistress can mean to a sub

"What a Mistress can mean to a sub" was written for BDSMforyou.nl by sub c.

A Mistress can mean so much more to a sub than just hitting him with a little whip, tying him up and sticking needles in his balls... And that is what this blog is about: "What a Mistress can mean to a sub, through the eyes of a sub". Because as a Dominant, you can add so many beautiful things to a D/s dynamic, completely outside of specific BDSM acts. And that is precisely what heightens the intensity of being together and lets the trust grow. The innate feminine power gives the Lady tools to help the other transcend himself. With direction, trust, understanding, warmth, interest and steadfastness... And that too is Femdom.

Written by sub c.

So I've passed 50, I have my life in good order when it comes to the house, the tree, the pet, and then there's that belly... I lose a bit of weight, but it comes back. I try something different, but I can't keep it up, in short, I enjoy life, but still...

Actually, I do want to change it. I try again, keep it up for a while, but fall back into my old pattern. I... can't manage it.

What do you expect of me?

Then I'm sitting chatting over dinner with Mistress Moriah and one of the questions she asks me is: "What do you expect of me?" On the face of it a logical question, and it seems so innocent, but now it's in my head and it slowly starts to churn. After a night's sleep I email her that what I'm looking for is to clear my head, but also that I can't manage to lose weight. After I've sent it, doubt slowly creeps in. Why did I send her that last part? What must she think of me now? Will she even take me seriously after this question?

Jack of all trades

And then Her answer comes. That she was a jack of all trades was well known. But then she casually says that she was a consultant at Weight Watchers for some time, that she has a professional set of scales on which she can measure my weight accurately, and so also has experience guiding people who want to lose weight. Goodness, is there anything she can't do...?! But nothing comes for nothing, and she wouldn't be a Mistress if she didn't attach a hefty set of demands to it.

A minimum weight loss of 1 kg per month was something I had expected and should certainly be achievable, and of course there will be consequences if I don't manage it. That is why there will be a regular weigh-in at her place on her scales. This is because her scales show the only truth from now on.

Eating more healthily

Furthermore, I have to eat more healthily, and once every two weeks I also have to bring Her and the family a healthy meal. With all the hectic pace of the day this will be quite a task, but that comes with it. I had to download the "Eet Meter" app from the Netherlands Nutrition Centre, create an account and give her the details so that she can check what I eat.

Of course I could easily cheat by not filling things in, but in the end I would only be cheating myself. And a sub who cheats on that... no, that's not how I'm wired. I want to do my best and make Her proud. She can only help me if I take it seriously myself and therefore fill in everything.

More protein

So after just one day I was told that I had to eat more protein and above all keep drinking water. When on day two I had enjoyed some sun with a few colleagues, had a beer and enjoyed some "brown fruit", I was told that it was fine to do so, but that it would be smarter to make choices, one or the other! And the assignment to take in fewer calories the next day and move more! So the next day I walked up the stairs to the upper floors, strolled around at lunch and neatly took my 10,000 steps again.

Could I come up with all of this myself? Do I really need her for this? Well, I can think up a lot, although tailored, specific advice is really very nice. I don't have to account to her, perhaps at the weigh-in later, but for me those little nudges in the back do help. I already notice that I have that focus again, the will to do well, the drive to tackle it seriously. She doesn't always have to tell me what to do and how to do it, sometimes I come up with proposals myself, which she then applauds.

Setbacks along the way

Of course it is still early days and I know that I will also have setbacks on this route, but I also know, and have complete faith in her, that she will help me through those moments. In doing so she makes a better me out of me. And the beautiful thing is that no whip or anything like it has been needed for that. Of my own free will I chose to walk this route with her. She chose of her own free will to help me with this, and together we have embarked on this adventure.

First get the eating under control, and then there will surely be more exercises that will reduce my belly. But all in good time and not too much at once, keeping going is the most important thing!

Trust in the right path

Where will it lead? To structurally weighing 10 kg less, that I already know! In her I have the trust that I will keep it up, and she will keep me on that right path. In that she means a great deal to me. Besides being a beautiful Dominant woman, she has also become a lifestyle coach. A confidante I can talk to in the moments when I find it hard to keep going.

The judge who will see to it that I do what she wishes. The executioner who will put me right should I stray from the right path. The lighthouse that shows me the way to an even better me than I already am. She is not there to make me fail, but to support, guide and help me succeed.

Immensely proud

I am therefore immensely proud that she wants to do this for me, and in the short time in which we have become closer, I have only come to appreciate her more. I am sure that when I am with her next time, I will have made her proud and can present myself as a better me. And then let's hope she will be satisfied with it.

Mistress Moriah, from the bottom of my heart I thank You for Your attention, wisdom, guidance and the caring heart and soul You put into guiding me. Together we are strong and I know we will reach the finish line, even if You perhaps hope that I will stumble once in a while....

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Text: sub c
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