Terms
What is the difference between a sub and a slave?
What is the difference between a sub and a slave? Within BDSM, people often talk about subs and slaves, but what exactly is the difference? The terms…
1 June 2026
What does Algolagnia mean?
“What does Algolagnia mean?” was written for BDSMforyou.nl by Mistress Moriah. The term Algolangia is not one you come across every day. It almost…
15 May 2026
Exhibitionism and Voyeurism: The Tension Between Seeing and Being Seen
Exhibitionism and voyeurism take the concept of seeing and being seen to the next level. The terms are often mentioned in the same breath, but they…
11 May 2026
What does hentai mean?
What does hentai mean? Hentai refers to a genre of pornographic or erotic manga and anime from Japan. The term literally means “perversion” or…
3 May 2026
Intersex or hermaphrodite. Which term is correct?
Intersex or hermaphrodite. Which term is correct? Hermaphrodite is an outdated (and, when applied to humans, offensive) term for intersex. A…
3 May 2026
What is sadism?
What is sadism? One of the letters in the acronym BDSM is linked to the word “sadism.” But what does this actually mean? What makes someone a sadist?
27 March 2026
Is it BDSM, fetish, kinky, or just sex?
Is it BDSM, fetish, kinky, or just sex? For some, BDSM is part of sex; others cringe when you mention BDSM and sex in the same sentence. So many…
26 March 2026
What exactly is a switch?
What exactly is a switch? In addition to the specific roles in BDSM such as dominant and submissive, there is also the role of the switch (also known…
24 March 2026
What does the role of the dominant partner look like?
What does the role of the dominant partner look like? The dominant is the counterpart to the submissive. Other terms used include: top (English…
24 March 2026
What does “swinging” mean?
What does “swinging” mean? Swinger culture is not strictly part of BDSM, but you’re likely to come across the term here and there, so here’s a brief…
24 March 2026