The orgasm: what is it and how does it come about?

“The orgasm: what is it and how does it come about?” was written for BDSMforyou.nl by Mistress Moriah.

The orgasm: for some it matters a great deal, for others not at all. And that is perfectly fine. People differ, and so do their experiences. Where one person needs to come during a BDSM experience, another doesn't need that at all. But what actually is an orgasm?

What is an orgasm?

It is a release of the sexual tension in your body. And because of that, a wonderfully relaxed feeling flows through you. One you can live off for minutes or even longer. Apparently there are women who can live off it for days. The feeling is different for everyone, and so is the road to it. My slave can be transported to a completely different world through knifeplay, where she lets go of all the "ropes" of control and has an orgasm.

What happens during an orgasm?

In women

More blood flows to the pussy when a woman becomes sexually aroused. The clitoris swells, as do the inner lips, and the outer lips open up a little. The lips become slightly darker in colour. The pussy becomes wet and wider and the womb moves up a little, which makes the pussy longer. Hard nipples appear and the breasts swell too. Breathing changes, heart rate and body temperature rise and the skin of some women flushes red.

The orgasm takes place at the peak of arousal. During this orgasm, the muscles around the pussy, womb, urethra and anus contract strongly several times. These first contractions are often the most intense, after which they become a little weaker. The woman may start to sweat, get muscle twitches in her arms and legs, and goosebumps. After the orgasm, less blood flows to the pussy, so calm returns and the swelling subsides.

All kinds of terms have been coined for the form a woman's orgasm takes: valley, wave, avalanche and volcano. And perhaps more fashionable terms have been invented since. Fortunately no two women are the same, and every woman experiences an orgasm in her own way.

In men

Through arousal, blood flows to the cock. The erectile tissue inside the cock fills with blood. At the same time, less blood is drained away through the blood vessels, so the cock becomes hard and stiff. And it grows. For some more than for others. And size does matter. The skin pulls back a little and the head is (partly) exposed. At the moment of peak arousal, the semen collects in the urethra and after a few seconds it shoots out. Which isn't always the case, because a man can also have a dry orgasm, meaning no semen comes out.

How can you reach an orgasm, among other ways?

Briefly, because there are so many ways:

Female orgasm:

• by stimulating the clitoris, in various ways.

• The vaginal orgasm needs a bit more research, because it isn't the fucking itself that leads to the orgasm, but the position matters quite a lot. "Doggy" apparently is a favourite among women.

• Through G-spot stimulation. Sometimes combined with clitoral stimulation.

• And then there are the unintended orgasms, for example through exercise, also known as a coregasm.

• There are also women, and perhaps men too, who come from having their nipples stimulated.

Male orgasm:

• Penetration, wanking

• Anal penetration

• Blowjobs

• By touching it, well, you can come up with plenty of things yourself. There are loads of videos online.

• During dreams, men can also come spontaneously, just like women. The wet dream.

• During the experience. After I have humiliated my sub to the bone, he gets a maximum of 15 seconds to come. And that is exactly what happens.

• Through pain stimuli and/or being tied up.

Important?

There are slaves/subs who are in chastity. That means their cock is under lock and key. And that cock is only released when the Mistress, or the keyholder of the submissive's CB, gives permission. And he had better hope he is then allowed to come.

Everyone experiences a BDSM experience in their own way, each with a different goal. And there are different kinds of Dominants: Femdom Mistress, Mistress, Master and so on. The goal of the BDSM experience can be, among other things, to empty your head, forget all your to-do lists, to come, to let your emotions out, to be of service to the Dom. Or a mix of these.

What is forced release?

We speak of forced release when a Mistress quickly brings her slave to orgasm several times in a row. Another term often used for this is 'milking'. But an orgasm is nice, isn't it? Yes, the first perhaps still is, maybe the second too, but then...

Do you think it is important to have an orgasm during a BDSM session? Or at all?

Mistress Moriah

Source

Text: Mistress Moriah
Illustration: BDSMforyou