A rose ceremony – what is that?

“A rose ceremony – what is that?” was written for BDSMforyou.nl by Mistress Moriah.

If you are interested in BDSM, you have probably come across the term “Rose Ceremony.” The Rose Ceremony is an ancient custom within BDSM. It is a kind of confirmation of the D/s relationship between Dom and sub. Some even consider it a kind of marriage.

The rose ceremony

As in many ceremonies, this ceremony also makes use of a lot of symbolism, so that the eternal bond and love for each other is further emphasized. The ceremony is usually an intimate gathering between the Dom and sub, accompanied by a number of good friends/like-minded people.

Of course, everyone has their own input on how the ceremony will take place, and that is perfectly fine. Make it your own ceremony. We will only give you some tips and ideas that you could use, but again, there is no such thing as a good or bad ceremony, there is only ‘your ceremony’, a ceremony that suits you.

Requirements

1 white rose with thorns (but not yet in bloom), 1 red rose with thorns (in full bloom), 2.5 meters of (light) chain, candles

Sub wears a collar

Witnesses (best friends)

The ceremony

The sub holds a white rose, the Dom a red one. The Dom removes the collar from the sub and passes it through the flame of a candle, then puts the collar back around the sub’s neck, taking an oath of fidelity and promising to protect the sub.

The Dom pricks the sub’s middle finger with the thorn of the red rose and lets two drops of blood fall onto the petals of the white rose. The Dom pricks his finger and lets two drops of blood fall on top of the drops from the sub. The wounds on their fingers are then placed together and they take a mutual vow of fidelity while the blood mixes together.

The witness takes a piece of a chain and quickly pulls it through the fire, then wraps it around the couple. At that moment, the couple takes the oath of fidelity again. Then the roses are pressed together and exchanged by the couple. The chain is then removed, packed up, and stored.

The roses are placed in a vase and the next morning the petals are picked and stored in a box. This box will be kept and taken to the grave.

This is the ceremony in a nutshell. Around this, you can of course come up with beautiful special things that suit you, so that it really becomes your ceremony.

Symbolism

Sub’s blood: the sub’s blood symbolizes virginity.

Dom’s blood: this shows the Dom’s willingness to shed his blood for the sub, to protect her.

Merging of blood: The merging shows the union of strength, both one and the same flesh and blood.

Exchange of roses: giving to each other.

Chain: a series of links representing all events. Passing through fire symbolizes the purity of all events. Memories are burned away. This chain will never be used for anything other than the same ceremony.

Rose petals: combining and mixing the petals reinforces the merging and bringing together of their lives.

Your own input

What is described here forms the basis of the ceremony, but you can of course add your own twist. For example, you could incorporate music that is appropriate for you and adds a very personal touch.

You can also choose to exchange rings afterwards. For example, there are beautiful silver “collar rings” available, which are worn by the Dom on the left and by the sub on the right.

You can write a beautiful poem for each other in advance and recite it. Or you can give the sub a permanent marker through scarving, a tattoo, or branding.

You can give all the witnesses a white candle as a symbol of ‘purity, virginity, and innocence’ and drip the melted candle wax over the sub’s body. The Dom can add some red candle wax as a symbol of love, suffering, and passion.

You can decorate the room with white lilies. A lily represents amiability, purity, spiritual love, fertility, cleanliness, and unity. The white lily is the symbol of pure innocence and virginal love.

You can also start the ceremony in all kinds of different ways. In short, create your own atmosphere and put your own spin on the ceremony. It is your ceremony, so you decide how it will unfold. But make it unique.

More information

Femdom & Femdom lifestyle – Theme page

Source

Text: Mistress Moriah
Image: 123rf.com