What is Findom, and what should you watch out for?

“Findom – What is Findom and what should you watch out for?” was written for BDSMforyou.nl by Mistress Moriah.

You may have heard of Femdom, but do you know what Findom is? Findom is a fetish within BDSM that involves money slaves and the desire to provide the Dominant woman with luxury, out of humility, out of the feeling of wanting to be nothing. This isn’t about wanting to ‘buy’ sex with money or expensive gifts, but stems from the desire to feel like nothing and to look up to her with admiration. To contribute to her luxurious life.

Findom vs. Femdom

It’s a little different from Femdom, but there are certainly similarities. In Femdom, too, She is superior to the male sub. But while Femdom revolves around humiliation, service, and pain (surrender), Findom is more about material service. Working hard yourself to earn your money and then spending your hard-earned money on her. A woman you’re barely allowed to get close to. The feeling of humiliation and regret is accompanied by excitement and pain.

Your gifts are a reflection of your devotion. The more pain and hardship you must endure, the greater your desire to please her even more, as in an ever-growing addiction. Emotions such as satisfaction, relief, desire, pain, and excitement alternate. All to be allowed to serve her in her luxurious life.

Power

Findom is a game centered on power and submission. The Dominant lady loves being pampered, and the money slave loves providing her with every luxury. The money slave must ensure she lacks nothing in terms of luxury and will go to great lengths to achieve this.

Findom is a combination of two words: Financial and Dominate. The submissive is “forced” to give her his money. Various names are used for these money slaves; they are also called “piggy banks” or paypig. These little pigs get aroused by financially submitting to a lady.

There are also various titles for the Dominant woman: Findom Mistress, Money Mistress, Findomme, Moneyomme, or Boss.

Want to make easy money?

Is Findom an easy way for a woman to make money? No. You don’t become a good Findom overnight. There are plenty of fakers out there who think this way, but they’ll likely be exposed quickly. A good Findom Mistress is naturally dominant and enjoys her power and the luxury around her. But in addition to this natural sense of dominance, it’s helpful to know more about the tools of power you can rely on for this.

For example, how to remotely take control of someone else’s computer. Or how to open an anonymous account to receive the money. PayPal could be an option, but since PayPal doesn’t support these kinds of practices, you also run the risk of having your account blocked.

The line between extortion and consent

The line between extortion and voluntarily emptying one’s pockets can sometimes be blurred. Sometimes it even pushes the boundaries or crosses the line. It takes considerable insight to navigate that line, because how do you keep the tension high while ensuring it remains consensual? Ultimately, BDSM is about consent from both sides. For outsiders, this can sometimes be difficult to understand. Ultimately, it revolves around power and surrender, trust and vulnerability in relinquishing your basic securities.

Contact between the Mistress and the sub can only take place through various means of communication such as: WhatsApp, Skype, phone, or text message, but it’s just as likely that the sub will have to go shopping with her and pay for everything.

Financial Contract

In most cases, a contract will be used, ensuring the sub knows exactly what is expected of him. What this contract looks like will vary from person to person. It is typically drafted based on the possibilities and preferences involved. It is important that the Findomme gains a clear understanding of her sub’s financial capacity beforehand.

Findom.com

Did you know there’s a special platform where you can find Findoms? Check out www.findoms.com. Of course, you have to be careful not to run into a faker, because there are plenty of those around. Where there’s money to be made, there are plenty of vultures nearby.

It’s difficult for both sides to find a reliable partner in this. Because there are also plenty of fake money slaves out there. They promise all sorts of things but ultimately deliver nothing. Finding a good match requires careful attention and remains difficult. Precisely because this is primarily about money. Trust continues to play a crucial role.

More information

Findom contract or financial slave contract
Theme page: Findom

Source

Text: Mistress Moriah
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