What is chastity? And just how exciting can it be?

“What is chastity? And how exciting can it be?” was written for BDSMforyou.nl by Mistress Moriah.

Chastity refers to the virtue of abstaining from sexual acts outside the context of marriage, according to the standards of certain religions, cultures, or personal beliefs. It can also be interpreted more broadly as living in sexual purity according to one’s own moral or religious values, which may involve avoiding sexual thoughts, words, and actions considered inappropriate. That’s quite a mouthful, but that covers the general story of chastity. Because within BDSM, (playing with) chastity can be a delightful impact play. It’s no coincidence that there are dozens (or perhaps even hundreds) of different types of chastity belts. So much variety means: a market!

The sweetest man is a chaste man!

Recently I was at my nail technician’s and we discussed my partner’s chastity. After all, you have to talk about something. She seemed quite interested, but did wonder how I got my sex. I looked at her with a smile and said: “His chastity means my freedom! Just because he can’t do anything doesn’t mean I can’t, of course. After all, there are plenty of men whose cocks aren’t locked away.”

“And…,” I added, “The sweetest man is a chaste man!”

Mental experience

I’m hearing more and more from women around me that men are asking for chastity themselves. These men understand that this physical restriction creates an intense mental experience. The experience of chastity runs deep; as a woman (keyholder), you penetrate deep into the man’s thoughts. You break into his head, so to speak. It gives you power, and the man loves it. He feels dependent on you, thrown back into a feeling of “nothingness”—feel free to call it a kind of vacuum.

What is chastity?

If you look up the meaning of this word online, you’ll quickly come across terms like “sexual purity,” “faithfulness,” and “no sex before marriage.” Of course, it can all relate to those things, but chastity is much more than that. It can enhance the sexual experience and increase the intensity when the time comes to let go. But it’s also a mental experience of dependence and surrender to the keyholder.

For some, it’s inconceivable why on earth a man would want to put his dick in a cage. But believe me, the man isn’t practicing chastity out of altruism or respect for you. That’s nonsense; you might wonder if altruism can even exist in a dualistic society, but that’s a different discussion. Caged men do this at least half for their own pleasure. Wearing a chastity belt is, above all, an intense mental experience that will change their lives – and yours.

What does chastity do?

Physically, it’s easy to explain. A penis cage prevents the wearer from getting aroused. If he does get aroused, the cage prevents his erection. The cage also hinders sexual acts. Wearing a CB (or chastity belt) can therefore be painful (with a stiff, constricted penis), but it doesn’t have to be. Unless, of course, you deliberately make him take Viagra right after locking his penis away – but that would be at least a tad sadistic.

The most intense part lies not in the physical but in the mental experience. Control over the penis lies in the hands of the keyholder. She determines how long the cage stays on and when he is allowed to release. An intense experience that begins with the “click” of the lock… Is he caged for a day? Will you let him walk around with his cage for a week? Or even longer? These thoughts provide mental sexual stimulation. And for some, that is more intense than physical sexual pleasure. I have also spoken to a number of caged men who said that the cage brought them a lot of peace of mind.

How is a chastity belt used?

The chastity belt, cage, or chastity belt can be easily worn under clothing. They come in various materials, such as plastic, silicone, leather, or metal. The belt is secured with a lock. When purchasing, pay attention to the size and material. Beginners are best off starting with a silicone or plastic cage. For experienced users, there are metal or steel cages.

It’s important to keep everything hygienic. That means thoroughly cleaning the cage or belt regularly. For leather belts, you can use a good toy cleaner. Plastic and metal cages can be cleaned with mild soap and lukewarm water.

What’s in it for the woman?

Men in chastity are more submissive, sweeter, and more caring. His adoration for you grows, and he’ll eat out of your hand. Of course, you won’t be missing out on anything, because his chastity gives you complete freedom to enjoy various sexual pleasures. You can play with yourself (while he has to watch, with his cock trapped in a cage), he can satisfy you orally (his tongue is free, after all), but you can of course also seek sexual pleasure with another man. And he may, just maybe, watch or listen to your stories of pleasure afterward.

Mine, at most, may be caged, wearing a mask and a straightjacket, and from the farthest corner of the room, share in my pleasure. Afterward, he may kiss the very tip of my fingernail. That is intimate enough, as far as I’m concerned. Because for my pleasure, I really don’t need his cock.

More information

The chastity belt – which one will you choose?
Trapped in a CB
The excitement behind the chastity cage or CB
Chastity, cuckolding & hotwifing – Theme page

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Text & image: Mistress Moriah