The psychological impact of kneeling

“The Psychological Effect of Kneeling” was written for BDSMforyou.nl by Mistress Moriah.

One of the most well-known poses in BDSM is perhaps the sub kneeling before their Dominant. Of course, it’s up to the Dominant whether kneeling is required at all. Personally, I like it, but if a sub (for physical reasons) can’t kneel before me, it’s obviously not an automatic “deal-breaker.” What doesn’t work, doesn’t work. But kneeling isn’t a given for every Dominant. With one Dominant, you might only have to kneel during a BDSM session, but in a more TPE atmosphere, it might even be required every time the Dominant enters the room. Every Dominant has different rules, and those rules might even vary by sub (if a Dominant has multiple subs).

Het psychologische effect van knielen

What is kneeling?

Kneeling is a fundamental human position in which one or both knees touch the ground. Kneeling that involves only one knee, rather than both, is called a knee-bend. Kneeling is the posture often associated with traditional Western marriage proposals. But it is also a beloved position within BDSM. At least in my case.

Different ways

There are various ways to kneel. It just depends on which pose the Dominant prefers. Consider, for example, hands behind the neck, standing proudly upright. Or perhaps you prefer it when your sub kneels before you with their head bowed, hands on their knees. Or maybe you have a completely different posture that you find pleasing. Of course, the posture can also depend on the sub’s (physical) capabilities.

  • Hands behind the neck, straight back
  • Head bowed, buttocks on the heels, hands open on the upper thighs
  • Straight back, hands crossed in front of the chest
  • Straight back, hands crossed behind the back, buttocks on the heels
  • Buttocks on the heels, upper body stretched forward as straight as possible along the floor
  • On knees and hands (perfect as a side table)
  • Knees on the ground, body bent forward with head on the ground (facing the floor).

The benefits for the Dominant

First, this posture reflects the submissive’s surrender. It’s about respect, submission; it literally makes the submissive small.

Besides the mental experience, I also find it physically comfortable when a sub sits kneeling next to me. This means I don’t have to look up at him/her. That just gives me a stiff neck. So, no thanks. If possible, neatly on their knees next to me, and if that’s not physically possible, then with their butt on the floor.

This way of posing allows the sub to be fully exposed for inspection.

Kneeling can be part of a full obedience training or part of a BDSM ritual or ceremony.

The benefits for the sub

By kneeling before the Dominant, the sub must literally look up to him or her. This reinforces the Dominant’s position and gives the sub the tools to emphasize his or her submission, as well as to honor the Dominant.

It can help the sub focus and obey.

Kneeling can be part of intensive training, which can instill a sense of pride.

In this way, the sub provides visual pleasure for the Dominant.

Waiting in this position for an extended period until the Dominant arrives can help increase your patience.

The pose empowers both parties. One offers themselves, the other accepts the offer.

Tips for proper kneeling

  • Do some stretching exercises regularly (preferably daily).
  • Kneeling can also be used as a punishment (Go sit in the corner on your knees for a while).
  • Practice kneeling regularly in front of the mirror. Try to hold the position for at least 10 minutes without moving while kneeling.
  • Take the type of floor into account.
  • Never kneel for too long to prevent knee injuries and/or nerve damage. Therefore, change positions occasionally.

From Kneeling to Crawling

Kneeling before the Dominant is somewhat different from crawling before the D. Crawling involves more humiliation, whereas kneeling can still be done with some pride; crawling conveys the message “you are not worthy of walking upright.” “By moving so low to the ground, you are nothing more than a crawling creature, like an insect or another animal.”

On the other hand, it can also be an invitation to make use of various orifices. A sub can use it to seduce, and then the question remains: who is in charge?

Some subs enjoy the pressure or even pain in their hands and knees as they crawl through the space for their D.

What is a kneeling bench?

The kneeling bench is a piece of furniture, usually made of wood, low to the ground where a sub can sit on their knees. This can be part of a training session, but also, for example, to receive punishment.

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Source

Text: Mistress Moriah
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