Face-sitting, with your butt right on the tip of his nose

“Facesitting, with your butt right on the tip of his nose” was written for BDSMforyou.nl by Mistress Moriah.

Facesitting (smothering), also known as queening or kinging, is a combination of humiliation, sensory deprivation, and breath control. The literal translation is “face-sitting,” but that’s a bit of a strange term. Although it certainly describes the act accurately – you’re sitting on top of someone’s face – it can be done with your bare butt, but it can also be done with your clothes on. It’s used as a punishment, but it’s also a great position to really pamper yourself. The sub lying underneath can’t do much other than swallow… lick or suffocate.

Submission

Personally, I’m not really into it. I don’t think a sub has any business being in that spot. As far as I’m concerned, he should stay far away from my erogenous zones. But of course, that doesn’t apply to every Mistress. There are plenty who love to sit right on the tip of a sub’s nose. The pose itself, by the way, isn’t always seen as a sexual activity; more often, it’s about submission, a way to demonstrate superiority. The body pressure, suffocation, moisture, body odors, and darkness can be seen as sexual attractions.

Breath Control

As I mentioned in the intro, facesitting is a combination of humiliation and breath control. The lack of oxygen (and especially the way it is achieved) can be quite sexually arousing. But it’s not just the nose that’s blocked – the ears and eyes are too. So the sub can no longer hear anything, see anything, and then their breathing is restricted as well. A very intense experience, indeed.

Want to make it even more exciting? Then place a dildo gag in the sub’s mouth. That way, he can no longer enjoy it himself (he’s left with only the discomfort), and you have another option.

Special furniture

Did you know there’s even special furniture for this? The so-called queen’s chair or smotherbox. It’s a low chair placed over the sub’s face and has an opening to allow for oral and/or anal stimulation. The main muscles of the crotch can relax and sag, allowing easy access to the vagina and anus

Facesitting and safety

You can imagine that when you sit with your butt on someone’s respiratory organs – that is, both their nose and mouth – there’s a risk involved. After all, you don’t want the sub beneath you to pass out, so agree on a warning signal together. If it gets really too suffocating, they can use it. A little oxygen now and then is quite nice.

More information

Take my breath away… an exciting moment
Hypoxophilia, breath holding, or breath control
Breath play – Theme play
Femdom – Theme play

Source

Text & image: Mistress Moriah