Attention is lovely, but not always a given - From Katinka's diary

“Attention is lovely, but not always a given“ was written for BDSMforyou.nl by slave Katinka.

Attention, we all need it, and that starts as early as being a baby. But later in life, too, a living being needs attention. And hopefully you get that attention somewhere. It's different when you want attention for something you want to keep secret, or something you think others will disapprove of or have opinions about. And what I'm actually talking about here is your orientation, in this case your BDSM preference. You often can't share this with anyone, and you don't just want to make your fantasies come true, you would most of all like to express your orientation. Whether you are a slave, sub, female slave or sissy. Or whatever other preferences there may be. Now, there are munches, but you may also like to get in touch with a Mistress.

One-way traffic

Now, I can imagine that as a newbie or as someone with BDSM experience, you want to draw all the attention to yourself, because you have a need, an orientation. And you want to do something with it. But as with everything, there has to be a balance. I regularly hear from my Mistress Moriah that some subs/slaves take up a great deal of her online time, and then it's goodbye and thanks. To my ears, that sounds like one-way traffic. Have you looked into her, do you know what makes her happy? Or do you just want to get hard? That's fine, but in my opinion you'd be better off looking up a porn site. There you can search to your heart's content for horny videos and wank away. I once had to keep in contact with a sissy myself. Well, after half a year I was completely fed up with it. Because it was purely one-way traffic, and the sissy was too sexual, so I was done with it. And luckily Mistress Moriah agreed with me.

Sad

Not long ago my Mistress wrote an article about how little lights can go out. Hence my story. She told me how the weekend had gone. And I listened to it in amazement. It's like going to a birthday party without a present, but going home with a present. Then I think: have you actually read her sites? Have you actually looked into her? Or do you only read what you want to read, and is it enough for you that she "lets" you play with her?

Then I wonder: how do these people approach life? Because if you had looked into her, you would also know that she works as a ProDomme, so you would know her rates. That doesn't mean you should give the same, but a little bunch of flowers, a scent, a gift voucher or buying one of her books, which also contain beautiful photos. And if you're looking at her sites anyway, you'll see plenty of reports of sessions. You can spontaneously send her a report, and she always publishes it with great pleasure. Not because she has to ask you for it. Offer it straight away, surprise her. Write a fantasy story because you're swallowing up her time online. No time, being busy, is no excuse. She takes all the time, too. She prepares, she makes sure she looks up your kinks/limits.

Good subs/slaves/female slaves

Incidentally, I'm glad that she also has good subs/slaves/female slaves who come to see her. And fortunately that group is larger than the people who only pay attention to their own needs. Because how lovely it is to be appreciated for the things you do for someone else. Putting yourself in the other person's shoes is a great virtue. If we are no longer able to give each other attention in whatever way, and to appreciate what someone else does for you, then it will soon become such an individualistic world that you'll end up completely stuck. Figuratively speaking, that is. Cherish the people who make time for you. Don't abuse it.

slave katinka
Proud slave of Mistress Moriah