The intensity and deeper layers of Cuckolding
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“The intensity and deeper layers of Cuckolding” was written for BDSMforyou.nl by Mistress Moriah.
BDSM meets voyeurism. That is a short summary of cuckold. However, cuckolding is more of a lifestyle than a BDSM game. The word cuckold is (probably) derived from the English word for the cuckoo bird. The concept has to do with adultery (comparing it to the cuckoo laying its eggs in another bird's nest). With ordinary adultery, both the man and the woman can be unfaithful, but with cuckolding it is exclusively the woman.
No deception
Incidentally, there is no deception involved, because the cuckold (the man) accepts the fact that his wife has multiple sexual relationships. He gets his arousal from knowing that his wife is having sex with other people (men or women). You could compare it to swinging, except that with cuckolding only the woman swings and the man watches. If he is even allowed to, that is.
Terms
Within the concept of cuckolding there are several disciplines:
Cuckoldry – the adultery
Cuckolding – committing adultery
Cuckold – the man with an unfaithful wife
Cuckoldress – the woman who commits adultery (also called a hotwife)
Bull – the (dominant) man the woman has sex with
Creampie eating – eating the bull's semen out of the dress's vagina
Various variations
So many people, so many desires. That applies to this experience too. Everyone fills in cuckolding in their own way, and you can go as far with it as you want. It ranges from gentle to intense. For some, it is enough to date other men every now and then outside the home; for others, it is precisely the thrill of having sex with another man (the bull) right in front of the cuck, whereby the cuck can be used for all kinds of odd jobs and services.
The most extreme variation is that the woman not only has sex with other men, but actually becomes pregnant by them and leaves her own cuck to bear the burden of raising the child. Really just like the cuckoo does. It also leaves other birds to look after its young. However, this variation occurs far less often than the adultery version.
Social cuckolding
A non-sexual variation is also called social cuckolding. The woman dresses provocatively and flirts with other men while her partner is present, but this does not lead to sexual contact. The variation in which the female partner enjoys her partner's infidelity is called cuckqueaning.
The cuck's sexual experience
For the man, cuckolding is above all a mental sexual experience. Through a mix of emotions he can reach the highest state of ecstasy without any physical contact. Emotions release substances in his body that act as a stimulant.
The experience for the cuck
For the cuck, the experience lies mainly in submission. His cuckoldress may do everything and he may do nothing. At most he may facilitate during her exciting dates and watch how much pleasure and arousal she experiences. Perhaps even with a better lover. It is a coming together of various intense emotions, such as: fear (of loss), jealousy, voyeurism, longing, pain (a tight CB), arousal, et cetera. He can even be humiliated further by the woman during the lovemaking.
Within BDSM, the term cuckolding is also used to indicate a longing for something you cannot have.
The experience for the cuckoldress
While the woman has all the (sexual) freedom, not every woman is immediately eager when her partner brings up this subject. It can make her insecure (is my partner gay/bisexual?) or even make her doubt his love. Other insecurities can also come to the surface, such as: “Does the bull actually find me attractive?”. That is why not all women are open to experimenting with this.
The bull
Usually the bull is an attractive (dominant) man who in himself poses no real threat to the relationship. It is a purely sexual matter. I have occasionally seen the term “human dildo” used jokingly. He is there to please the woman, and that need not be limited to the bedroom. Of course, the bull must have respect for the cuck.
Chastity belt
Wearing a chastity belt is often an essential part of the cuckold experience. The key is worn safely by the “Dress” on a chain on her chest.
Mistress Moriah
Additional information
Cuckold – why you cannot buy true depth
What is a hotwife or hotwifing?
Cuckold and/or TPE contract
Used twice by my cuckoldress
What is a keyholder
The chastity belt: which one will you choose?
What is chastity? And how exciting can it be?
Source
Text: Mistress Moriah
Photography: 123rf.com