Will the real FemdomLady please stand up?

“Will the real FemdomLady please stand up?“ was written for BDSMforyou.nl by Mistress Moriah.

What makes someone a good Femdom lady? And by that I mean someone you would do anything for, simply because she is Her. Not the woman next door, not your aunt, not your best friend and not even another Mistress. She rises above all the others. But what makes her so special? It's a good question. Is it the lady who looks so insanely sexy that your cock seems about to burst out of your CB? Or is it the lady who snaps at you that you are the biggest failure on earth? Or perhaps that young thing who can conjure the money out of your pockets with her middle fingers in the air. But of course it could also be that one semi-inconspicuous lady whose eyes are so commanding that you cannot refuse her anything...

True Femdom experience

The truth undoubtedly lies somewhere in the middle, and perhaps it even lies in a different place for everyone. And that is all fine, because everyone has their own experience and takes from it what they see in it. There is not one right way, there is only the way that suits you. The true Femdom experience lies within; it is the natural, innate, mental feminine power. And every woman has it... Because the mental strength of women is the logical answer to the physical strength of men. Together, as a symbiosis. A natural law. That is why I want to say to all the ladies who think they have to put on a little play "in Dominance": stop it! Just be yourself! Then you are not only unique but also very pure. And the other person feels that energy...

Femdom labelled

In how many households does the woman wear the trousers without the relationship being labelled Femdom? Because even without labels, women can dominate perfectly well. It is mostly insecure men who struggle with the mental power of women. Every self-assured man has no trouble with it whatsoever.

Sometimes there are women who need a little confirmation to blossom. A little push in the right direction or a bit of self-confidence... After all, it goes completely against what society wants us to believe. Through every kind of media, it is screamed deafeningly loudly how dominant men are. But it is precisely the silence of women that shows the true mental power. We don't need to shout about how mentally strong we are; we simply are.

Embrace yourself as a Femdom lady

And that is what I would like to pass on to all those ladies and young girls who have not yet been able to fully embrace themselves as a Femdom lady. We don't need a latex outfit to prove anything, nor two middle fingers in the air or calling men losers. We have nothing to prove, because we are mentally stronger. And we prove that even more by not overdoing it...

Sometimes I see ladies toiling away at Femdom parties. They work through one slave after another. Of course they may enjoy it, and then that's fine: "Go for it, girls". As long as you never do it to show how "dominant" you are. You are a Femdom lady simply because you were born a woman with those abilities. And nobody can take those qualities away from you.

Vulnerability and strength go together

Sometimes I receive compliments when I show my vulnerability in one of my blogs. I am always a little surprised, because in my experience showing vulnerability does not make someone weak. Quite the opposite. Desperately hiding your vulnerability shows much more fear. Who or what should I be afraid of showing my vulnerability to? All those people who could abuse it? But they don't need my honesty for that, do they? They will do it anyway, regardless of my honesty, because that lies with them and not with me. Besides, I would rather not be led by fear. I simply want to be my own simple self. Strong, dominant, headstrong, sadistic, loving, warm, empathetic and yes, sometimes vulnerable too. In my opinion, that makes me very human.

I once had a relationship with a man. However, I wasn't happy, so I ended it. Within a few days he got in touch with the story that he was dying. He was terminally ill. I offered to be there for him, so that he would not have to walk that road alone. At one point a good friend of mine asked: "Moriah, what if it isn't true...?" And then I only said: "If it's true, he is ill; if it isn't true, he is sicker." Sadly, he turned out to be "sicker". And yet I am glad I stayed true to my own worth and values, because they are completely independent of someone else's lies. Does staying true to myself make me less powerful? At most it makes me naive, but not less powerful.

Believe in your own power!

The most important thing is that we stand firm and keep believing in our own power. There will always be people who want to take advantage. But that says something about them, never about you. Be true to yourself and believe in your inner strength. Your core is an inexhaustible source of love... We can spread a great deal of it, and sometimes we could do with using some of it ourselves.

Ladies... you've got the power!

Mistress Moriah

Source

Text: Mrs Moriah
Photography: BDSMforyou