The most important ins and outs of fisting

“The Most Important Ins and Outs of Fisting” was written for BDSMforyou.nl by Mistress Moriah.

You’ve probably heard the terms “fisting,” “fistfucking,” or “fist-fucking” before. It’s a sexual act in which a straightened hand or clenched fist penetrates the vagina or anus. You realize you can’t just do this overnight; it takes training to stretch things out. So patience is a virtue, and in this case, you’ll also need plenty of lube.

Is it really possible?

The vagina is naturally flexible and can stretch quite a bit. After all, a baby has to be able to pass through it. However, the body is only prepared for this over the course of nine months during pregnancy. Of course, a fist is somewhat smaller than a baby’s head, but training is still necessary here as well. You can’t just shove a fist into a woman’s vagina. Also keep in mind that the labia are somewhat more delicate.

The intestines, however, are even less elastic, and you don’t want them to tear or get damaged – let alone a ruptured intestinal wall! If this happens, urgent medical care is needed! So, especially with the intestines, it’s essential to build up slowly. Above all, take your time.

What is the experience like?

Why would you want a fist in your pussy or ass? For some, this is a completely unnecessary question; they find it an extraordinarily sensational experience, even an intense feeling of pleasure. The experience revolves around trust, vulnerability, and intimacy. In men, fisting can even stimulate the prostate and lead to an orgasm.

Does it hurt?

Even though it might sound rough, if you build up to it properly and slowly, it certainly doesn’t have to hurt. If you do vaginal fisting safely, it doesn’t have to be dangerous either. With anal fisting, a gradual approach is even more important. The skin of the anus can tear or become damaged more easily.

Not comfortable doing it with your own hand? Special fisting dildos are also available.

Safe fisting

Whether you’re starting with the vagina or the anus, you always want to ensure it’s as safe as possible and avoid damaging the inside. Therefore, always take the following precautions:

Preparation

• Know what you’re doing; inexperienced fisting is not recommended. Do your research beforehand, including on anatomy.
• First, build a strong bond of trust with each other.
• Shave the pubic hair beforehand, or trim it as short as possible. Long pubic hair during fisting can cause unnecessary pain (and thus less relaxation).
• For anal fisting, it is important to rinse thoroughly beforehand.
• For vaginal fisting, make sure the bladder is emptied beforehand.
• Place a towel under the sub.
• Make sure all jewelry is removed.
• Wash your hands before you begin.
• Keep your nails trimmed short.

The Fisting

• Use latex gloves (this can prevent bacterial infections).
• Use plenty of (good-quality) lubricant (silicone- or water-based, and preferably not oil-based). There are lubricants with a numbing effect, but it’s best to avoid them because you’ll be less likely to notice if something goes wrong. There are also special fisting gels made from natural ingredients.
• Make sure the anal sphincter is as relaxed as possible beforehand. For example, by starting with your fingers, followed by a dildo.
• Take your time and always keep a close eye on the recipient.
• Keep communicating well with each other and keep observing the other person closely.
• Start small (with 1 finger) and build up slowly, finger by finger. Keep using plenty of lubricant, especially in the anus since it doesn’t produce its own moisture.
• Make small, slow circular movements.
• Never force it; if there’s too much resistance, it’s better to stop and try again later.
• Stop fisting immediately if there’s any bleeding.

Conclusion

• Finished? Never pull your whole hand out all at once; removal must also be done carefully. If necessary, massage the vaginal opening with your other hand to keep the muscles relaxed.
• Afterward, throw the glove (inside out) in the trash.
• Wash your hands with warm water and soap, then use a disinfectant.
• Clean the area with a good toy cleaner and/or disinfectant.

Aftercare

Avoid sexual penetration for at least 24 hours after fisting. Keep in mind that if you’ve used an oil-based lubricant, this can compromise the effectiveness of a condom (risk of tearing more easily).

If you do have sexual contact in the near future, always use a condom. Any cuts or abrasions make you more vulnerable to STIs (such as syphilis, hepatitis C, and/or HIV).

See your doctor!

Fisting is not without risk; something can always go wrong. So if you experience any of the following symptoms, contact your doctor immediately:

• High fever
• Fatigue
• Abdominal cramps
• Bleeding
• Swelling (abdomen)
• Dizziness

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Text & image: Mistress Moriah