Rape play or rape fantasy

“Rape play or rape fantasy” was written for BDSMforyou.nl by Mistress Moriah.

In the blog “Role-playing: how realistic should you make it?” we discussed various role-plays and their impact. A common role-play (or fantasy) is rape play, or in Dutch, the rape fantasy. Of course, rape play is never about actual rape, because that is (rightly!) a criminal offense. Even with rape play – or perhaps especially with rape play – it’s important to establish clear boundaries with each other beforehand. Always do it in a safe place, because imagine if someone noticed and called the police. Then try proving “your innocence.”

Rape Play

The rape fantasy or desire for rape play is much more common than you might think. Especially among women. Of course, these women don’t actually want to be raped at all. It’s about surrender, about things “happening to you.” Because during rape play, you can’t do anything about it – everything “just happens to you.” You’ve tried to say “no,” to resist, you’ve even shed a few tears and screamed, but still, you’re being used, and it’s “forced sex.”

Every rape play is interpreted differently, and everyone gives it their own twist. One person wants to be attacked on the street by a “stranger,” another finds it an exciting idea to be raped by “her boss,” and the next wants to fall into the hands of a handsy masseur. Broadly speaking, however, it usually boils down to the same thing. The strong, independent woman is sexually subjugated and can’t do anything about it. Her feminine vulnerability is further emphasized during this fantasy.

You’re not alone

If you think you’re abnormal for fantasizing about this, I can snap you right out of that dream. In fact, more than 50% of women fantasize about it at some point! And no, they don’t actually want to be raped (I can’t emphasize this enough)—this is a fantasy where everything is safe. It’s about letting go of control. Because if it actually happens against someone’s will, it’s a crime, and you deserve to go to jail.

Taboo

Even though it’s a common fantasy, there’s still a taboo surrounding it. Yet there’s nothing wrong with this fantasy. Ultimately, it’s about letting go of control for a moment. Fully immersing yourself in the present, just “being” for a moment, and embracing your vulnerability. Some experience this through bondage, others through spanking, and these ladies through rape play. And if SSC is involved, there is absolutely nothing wrong with it!

Everyone is free to fantasize. Even if the fantasies are incomprehensible to others or perhaps even downright bizarre. You don’t have to be ashamed of your fantasy; it’s just important that you find someone with whom you can share the fantasy safely.

Rape play among men

Of course, men can also have rape fantasies. In these scenarios, they are dominated by a woman. This can involve sexual desires, but also, for example, through pegging, where the man is penetrated anally by the woman using a strap-on dildo.

Always think carefully beforehand

There’s nothing wrong with fantasizing, but sometimes it’s better to leave a fantasy just a fantasy. Not every fantasy needs to be “lived out.” The mental impact of rape play can be significant, and it can unintentionally bring up certain emotions.Think before you start.

More information

When role-playing, how realistic should you make it?
Relationships & Roles – Theme page

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Text: Mistress Moriah
Photography: 123rf.com